My husband had an affair 1 1/2 years ago with one of his best friends. It took me months to trust him and over a year not to be angry anytime I heard her name. If you love him unconditionally, it is worth saving the marriage.

I told my husband we were going to do the 40 day love dare or go to couseling. He chose to do the Love Dare and in him doing that it transformed how we both looked at each other and how we treated each other. It takes both sides to commit to the other. I believe in second chances. I believe in forgiveness. But to truly forgive is to also trust. There is no future with trust missing.

Learning to trust again takes time and courage. It takes him re-committing himself to the relationship and I remember telling my husband he had to choose. When someone tells you to forget, well, you don’t forget. But inside of all of this, a new relationship can be created between the two of you if that is what you want. It can be something far better than what would seem possible.

If my husband were to make the same choice again, the outcome would be different. To forgive is freedom. The forgiveness isn’t for him, it is for you. It is in forgiving that you will find you.

I found your post interesting and inspiring all at once.

Most importantly I love your distinctions between needing and wanting a coach… living life feeling totally alive is indeed an awesome way to live.

He ruins events and doesn’t try to get over his afflictions. I live with him. He feels bad about himself but always wears me down after awhile.

I am getting so i don’t even want to come home to him anymore even thought I love the husband when he acts like the man I married. He already went to see a counselor.

Lied about the circumstances and found out the truth two years later during a breakup (now married). We have had many issues due to this and the fighting continued.

A couple years after that, another breakup (due to fighting) and during the one month we were separated, he slept with two woman. I have been with him a total of 16 years and 13 years of marriage which happened shortly after our first pregnancy. After the breakups came pornography, lies and more lies.

I have lost whatever was left in me to trust and we are now headed toward divorce.

In my case, I created more damage by staying in this unhealthy marriage, look at your situation now and figure out if this could be you down the line. I am in so much pain because I am in love with this man.

I have convictions, but it is something I feel I need to do. I sat down and tried to give him a timeline of events and tell him why I have been so distrusting, and he doesn’t seem to get it. He says that he has lied and so on because he is fedup with my acusations, how am I supposed to heal if there is always something with this man? He said he will do nothing because it is not his fault. I am broken inside now.

I hope eveything works out for you, but please don’t lie to yourself, you deserve better.

Just experienced my husband loosing his job (fired), having to sell our beautiful home. Got pregnant and lost baby at 4 months and find naughty email 2 weeks later.

Very easy decision to say kiss my ass and moved without him. It’s been 5 months, I am raising our child who is happy and grounded. Have found a very good job and am supporting my family without having to depend on someone who is selfish and undependable and not worth the time and effort I was spending on him. Cheaters are cheaters are cheaters. Get rid of him.

Live your life the way you want to!

Thank u Rich you have enlightened me and so enriched my life and experience!