He ruins events and doesn’t try to get over his afflictions. I live with him. He feels bad about himself but always wears me down after awhile.

I am getting so i don’t even want to come home to him anymore even thought I love the husband when he acts like the man I married. He already went to see a counselor.

Learning to listen to our hearts and trust our (gut)
instinct is at the heart of my work with clients and
is something I have taken years to even begin to
understand…

It was good to read how you are creating your own ways to
tap into your intuition.

What you call your trick of blocking the negative energy
is very powerful. Thanks for sharing. I will definitely
try it out.

Love. Rich

If you would like to contact me personally then please
write to me: rich (at) thatconfidenceguy.com

I know this may sound like a simplistic answer but please understand that it isn’t. My response is to trust your intuition. For me that means paying attention to the pit of my stomach and my breathing. If my breathing is shallow, if I’m sighing alot, if I feel anxious and sick to my stomach, then it means I’m in a situation I should not be in.

This “knowing” comes on the tail of always “over thinking.” I now know that if I feel it in my gut, I shouldn’t be doing it or it is wrong for me; if I don’t feel it in my gut but am creating scenarios in my mind…essentially “over thinking” then that is my trigger for letting go and trusting that things are as they were meant to be.

Dunno if that makes sense outside of my own mind but the bottom line is no one can “make” you feel any particular way; you allow yourself to feel all that you feel. If you don’t like the feeling, stop allowing it to happen. Trust your gut. Pay attention to your body. A person benefits no one if they themselves are not emotionally and physically healthy.

We all know what we should do, we just rationalize and/or make excuses. We need to trust our gut, get out of our heads and know that all things difficult come with lessons and oftentimes the greater the difficulty, the greater the lesson…learn to always ask yourself what is the lesson in this pain. I really believe that is a very beneficial question and one to be valued.

My thoughts on your blog note about “how do you know when the people around you aren’t good for you and when you’re just in a bad mood?” is that those that are not good for you usually trigger your bad mood. When I am around people who live in fear, skepticism and doubt, I feel like my energy is being sucked out of me.

When I decided to start my own business, those types of people told me I could never do it and why would I leave such a great paying job. I realize today, that it is their fear, not mine, so today I limit the time I spend with individuals that want to tell me what “I cannot do”.

One thing I know about myself, I could sense other’s energies and if it isn’t positive, it will affect my mood, but just temporarily as when I walk away from them I shake away that negative stuff. There is no room for that in my life. I have taken many different kinds of risks in my life and career and was often the first to try out new technologies and when something doeesn’t work, I am unable to sit on it, I need to create a change…..and I do.

So, when you find yourself in a bad mood, ask yourself what you are thinking about that triggered it or who you were talking to recently that may have influenced it or better yet, why hold onto it and feed it…..change it and get back on track towards the great things you were aiming to accomplish. Know yourself and be good to yourself!

A trick I use when I sense someone is sucking away my energy, I put my left hand into my right hand in a cup position just at my stomach level and usually within minutes the person stops whatever they are doing or saying. May sound crazy to you…Try it.

Until next time…..Tina

I like your post but what if the person you are dealing with is your husband and he makes you feel down all the time. You just found out he had an affair for 2 years and he expects you to forgive and forget and continue. Then things get really tricky when you have kids and you don’t want packing and leaving to be the first option.

So it’s been 5 months now since I have found out but still am in a wait and see situation. Should I just say enough is enough and leave? Should I hang around and hope for him to change and be a faithful husband again? How do I handle this?

Thanks and GOD bless…
M.